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Atiqa Odho
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Atiqa Odho Advises Women to Walk Away from Toxic Relationships

by Ayesal A
written by Ayesal A

Atiqa Odho is a Pakistani television and film actress, host, and namesake of her founded cosmetics brand Odho cosmetics. She can be seen on TV screens in ‘Kaisi Teri Khudgarzi’ as Shamsher’s (Danish Taimoor) mother.

In the drama, we see Odho’s character is a cliche evil mother-in-law type who is unhappy that her son married a middle-class girl. However, in real life, Odho has a different stance.

Recently, the entrepreneur took to her Instagram to encourage women to speak up, take a stance for themselves, and walk away from toxic relationships that suffocate the girl.

She wrote:

 I write this in the hope that it may help someone reading it realize that your life is in your own hands. Having survived both physical and emotional abuse as a young woman, I feel its my duty to help others get out of toxic relationships.
Abuse of any kind is unacceptable regardless who it’s coming from. Walk away and never look back. If you allow anyone to mistreat you they will form a habit to do so and it only gets worse with time.The abuser gets addicted to such behaviour and never stops.
Your life, your self worth and your diginity are precious so take control of them and be strong. Many will tell you things that weaken your own resolve but never listen to them. Only listen to your gut and mind, not even your heart for it falters alot.
Trust me when I say this, you can do much much better so do not compromise and put your life at risk for anyone. Get out while you still can!

Will The Perspective of Weak/Evil Female Characters Ever Change in the Pakistani Entertainment Industry?

Do you think playing a negative character on TV who has made life difficult for her daughter-in-law and then supporting women to walk out of toxic relationships might make people confused?
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Women Characters in Dramas
Social Issues

Will The Perspective of Weak/Evil Female Characters Ever Change in the Pakistani Entertainment Industry?

by Ayesal A
written by Ayesal A

There once was a time when Pakistani dramas took over the hearts of people with their out-of-the-box scripts, concepts, talent, and much more. Praises were sung for the storylines, even across the border.

However, the dramas and scripts being written today are making us question what kind of stories and characters are we showing, and what influence is it leaving behind.

The hard truth is that there is an increase in demand for misogynist, bad boy, law-breaking, murdering male characters and sad, alone, victim-blamed, dependant, gold-digging female characters

Mother-in-laws are bossy, and abusive, and will do just about anything to break their son’s marriage apart, sister-in-laws will join this pact, whereas the damsel in distress will remain voiceless and powerless until the last episode.

Sounds familiar? We thought so too. Instead of showing how mature, stable, independent, and caring these female characters are and how they’ve beautifully managed to maintain the work-life balance, they are labelled as greedy, materialistic or even too career-oriented and ambitious women who don’t give two cents about their families.

This perception of women is not only dangerous to feed into young minds, but is also largely incorrect.

Here are a few examples of what kind ‘role models’ Pakistanis have nowadays:

Hania Amir as Hala from ‘Mere Humsafar’

While the duo, Hania Amir and Farhan Saeed, were loved by the audience, can we step back and focus on the bigger issue here? Throughout the entire drama serial, Hania Amir aka Hala has been shedding tears like her eyes are Niagra Falls. For some odd reason, it is a common perception that South Asian daughters-in-law are abused and tortured by their mother-in-law, and have little to no say in the household.

Hala literally plays the bechari -bebass bahu from the beginning right down to the end! She was even tortured by her aunt in her childhood, and had a daadi who swooped in like Wonder Woman to save her now and then, but died (as always) leaving Hala all alone. Hala eventually starts to confide in hubby Hamza, but of course, that would mess up the plans her dear MIL have for them, thus starting the lies, deceptions, misunderstandings, and whatnot.

Really? What about those girls who have raised their voices? Those women who have balanced their work and career, who stand up for themselves? Why are women always shown to be weak and easily bullied?

Guess we’ll never know.

Rabi (Neelam Munir) from Pyar Deewangi Hai is another example of a woman who has a husband who loves her unconditionally and yet, the sneaky mother-in-law comes out of nowhere like a pesky cockroach and always manages to make her the bad guy (or girl in this case) and guess what? Like always, she is also Rabi’s aunt – taadaa!

Saba Hamid as Shahjahan in ‘Mere Humsafar’

How can we forget the wicked witch who is the root cause of all the problems in Hala’s life, right? In Pakistan, when a girl is right about to get hitched, she is given tips, ones in which her friends and family members warn her about a controlling, wicked, evil, a woman who will make her life miserable – the MIL. While in our own lives and in the lives of many others we know, the MILs are sweet, supportive, caring, and let their daughter-in-law’s life on their own terms, but not Shahjahan!

This lady here who has dominated on Pakistani television screens has shown countless MILs and ones to be, how to be evil, how to create rifts between sons and their wives, how to manipulate innocent mama’s boys into falling into deep traps when they will always ‘be safe’. From verbal abuse to physical, this saas of the year has done it all with Hala – making this MIL a sight we’d never want to see.

How can we forget about Gul-e-Rana as Naseem in Pyar Deewangi Hai who not only plays a dark-skinned character (which received ample backlash from the audience for perpetuating the dark-skin stereotype) but will also do just about anything to break off her son’s marriage – what a  hobby these MILs have found, way to go story-writers!

Iqra Aziz as Nirma in ‘Jhooti’ & Sara Khan as Anum in ‘Wabaal’

Iqra Aziz felt like a professional extortionist in the drama serial, which became a snooze fest a few episodes in because she had the same pattern of behaviour. Get married to an easy ‘bakra‘ that loves you and will serve you anything and everything on a silver platter while you blow off his hard-earned money, spend it on yourself or your boy-toy, and you know the rest.

Whereas Sara Khan’s character also shows us the same ‘gissi pitti’ story of how a girl born into a middle-class family pretends to be the Queen and a fake to keep up an image and leaves her father penny-less.

Shazma from Woh Pagal Si. Played by Zubab Rana is not too far away from these characters herself. Not only does she openly cheat on her husband but she also takes his wealth and wants easy money over hard-earned halal money.

How is this fair to all the middle-class girls who work day and night and some more than 1 job to feed their families and provide the basic necessities for them? Ever thought of writing something for them instead?

The Side Chic

What justifies a womaniser having a few side chics by his side? The phrase ‘Men will be men’ which is ‘Woh larka hai’ – the three words that give permission from cheating on their wives, to even murdering a random person for their girl! How cute! Just the type of men we need in our lives who will make every living second a nightmare trapping us in jail sounds like a dream! But, what about the chics who know that the man-child is taken, and still pursue him like he is the pot of gold we’ve heard about waiting for us on the other side of the rainbow?

Shamsher from Kaisi Teri Khudgarzi, Mateen from Pyar Deewangi Hai or Zaheen from Woh Pagal Si are hand-picked examples of women who are waiting for the minute their men leave their wives so that they can steal everything, and mind you these girls will go to any extent to keep the men on a leash.

Shelter homes and pet stores are filled with pups and dogs for adoption FYI.

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Ayesha Toor
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‘Dark Skin, Urdu Speaking Actresses are Given Negative Roles’ – Ayesha Toor

by Ayesal A
written by Ayesal A

Pakistani actress, anchor and model Ayesha Toor recently opened up in an interview. The ‘Kaisi Teri Khudgarzi’ star talked about her role as ‘Farwa Bhabhi’ in the drama amongst negative roles, women’s rights, feminism, and other things.

At a point in the interview, Ayesha says that actresses who have a little darker complexion and a different pronunciation of Urdu are cast in negative roles instead of being leads.

Moreover, she adds that the trend probably started with Mahira Khan after Humsafar because the drama was a sensational hit and Mahira is fair, has rosy cheeks, a bubbly personality, and has an accent when she talks.

Toor also shares that amongst other leads, she has the best pronunciation when it comes to Urdu, but then she added that recently she realized that Iqra Aziz and Saboor who have coloured skin are also playing leads, so it can be as per the role as well.

She says:

But mujhe lagta hai ke ab shahid woh waqt agaya hai ke agar ap dark skinned hai aur agar apke baath karne ka ek lehja hai toh apko negative character main, villainous character main dal deta hai…

 

But, then today I was thinking ke main lead humesha, I think it started with Mahira, probably because Humsafar bohaut popular hua tha, Mahira is a fair-skinned girl, fair skin and pink cheeks and all uske bahad bohaut laga..

 

But then I also realized there’s Iqra, there’s Sajal, Saboor, Sonia Hussayn, who have not-so-white-skin, and they’ve done a great job, they’re not just surviving, they’re thriving,..  uhmm but jahan tak kahani ka taluq hai woh karta hai agar dark ski n aur Urdu ka lehja alag ho halake meri Urdu inn sab se bhaitar hoti hai set pe, sub se achi Urdu meri hai, but phir woh apko ameer khatoon, agar lambi ho, alag ho, toh villain bana dete hai.

Do you agree with her statement? Do you see Ayesha Toor in a positive lead role in the near future?

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Kaisi Teri Khudgarzi
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Pakistani Drama ‘Kaisi Teri Khudgarzi’ Starring Danish Taimoor & Durefishan Saleem Called Out for Glorifying Abuse

by Ayesal A
written by Ayesal A

Pakistani Drama ‘Kaisi Teri Khudgarzi’ has landed in hot waters after netizens called out the TV serial for its toxic storyline.

The script has been accused of glorifying abuse and openly showing that men can forcefully marry and bully women if they want to.

Moreover, given the recent events of harassment and how #JusticeForKhadija is already trending, this is adding more fuel to the fire.

#JusticeForKhadija: Pakistani Celebrities Demand Justice for Girl Abducted & Sexually Harassed by Classmate & Businessman Father for Rejecting Proposal

The drama serial starring Danish Taimoor and Durefishan Saleem portrays a crazy ashiq Shamsher played by Taimoor who is romanticized as a love-struck spoiled brat who simply cannot take no for an answer. To make it worse, the character of Mehek (Duresifhan) is shown as a weak woman who is powerless against Shamsher.

What’s even more disgusting is that the storyline justifies his actions and normalizes his delusional behaviour. But the audience has now had enough. Netizens are now calling for a ban on the show.

A user pointed out the same and said that a societal change needs to come otherwise productions and channels only care for money.

In an interview, actress Urwa Hocane opened up about how drama nowadays has glorified abuse and toxic masculinity, and that stories nowadays are all about romanticising negative characters. Moreover, she added that the girl does not step up for justice until the 40th episode instead of raising her voice from the first, which is setting the wrong example for our youth.

Pakistan’s Drama Industry has Romanticized Abuse & Harassment of Women: Urwa Hocane

Written by Radain Shah and directed by Ahmed Bhatti, the ensemble cast for this drama includes veteran actors Naumaan Ijaz and Atiqa Odho as well.

Do you agree with Urwa, moreover, do you think such storylines are encouraging the youth of Pakistan to romanticize harassment and assaulters?

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