In a recent interview with GlossETC, Pakistani actress Urwa Hocane shared her two cents about how she firmly believes that the drama industry has openly romanticized the abuse and harassment of women.
She goes on to share that the deep-rooted patriarchal system, misogyny, and apologetic attitude of parents when a girl is born as well as aggressive notions grilled into her from the very beginning.
The conversation started with the question if Urwa was happy with the roles she was playing on-screen to which the actress replied, “no”.
She quoted:
Ab nobat ye aagayi hai kea ap ke pas jo bach bach ke 10 ya 15 scripts aati hai, aap kehte ho ke in main se jo thora bhaitar hai na aur jis ki team aisi hai ke hum set pe ‘isko bacha leinge’ ap woh wala karlete ho because I don’t know what the writers are writing and what the content teams are making them write, and what the channels are making them write, it breaks my heart.
I mean yeah sure I should be brutal, agar ap child abuse pe drama banao- I still remember when I did Udaari, even though we were educating children and their families that if something like this were to happen then how do you get out of it, we received multiple notices from PEMRA. Jab aap screen pe aj kal ye dekhate ho na ke ek mian biwi ek dusre se mohabbat karte hai aur uno ne ek dusre ka hath pakra hai ya koi aisi cheez, letter aajate hai PEMRA ke.
Meaningful cheez aap karte hai aur aapko letter ajate hai. Mujhe bataye ke iss waqt jo humare angry, full of anger heroes chal rahe hai jo jab tak aapke baal nahi keechte toh aapko unse mohababt nahin hoti, yeh who walay heroes hai jo apko harass kar rahe hote hai universities main, end main aapko usi ki harassment se mohabbat hojati ha ke ‘uss ne mujhe chera tha, who hai na mera raasta roz rokta tha’… what are we teaching?
Aur younger larkay aur younger larkiyan isey kya seekh rahi hai? Ke jo apka raasta rokta hai jo apke bazu pakar leta hai aur jo apko kehta hai ‘agar meri baath nahi suni main tumari jaan lelunga’ who hero hai?
Aap ne harassment ko, app ne domestic abuse ko, aap ne domestic violence ko, for that matter aap ne marital rape ko bhi kahin na kahin romanticize karlia hai… have you all lost your minds?
Aur jo larki kuch nahin bol rahi aap unko heroine bana rahe hai, toh kya seekh rahi hai aapki youger generation?
Yar can we please sit down and ponder upon this? Who larki sekh rahi hai ke kch nahin bolna, ab bas rote rehna hai dharay mar mar ke. So, ab nobat ye agayi hai ke jab mujhe scripts aati hai na main humesha kehti hoon, acha konsa wala hai jo zyada buri chezein project nahin kar raha? Jo meri values ko zyada taang nahin kar raha aur who jo ek doh chezein hai who main director se discuss kar ke thora sa … iss hadh par toh paunch gaye hai as far as this creative medium is concerned.
Main nahi keh rahi ke aap sabak parhana shuru kar de, nobody is saying that, because I know a lot of people are going to say this is entertainment.
I recently did a drama where one of the producers, there was a situation and I said ‘she wont cry here, now she should stand up for herself, 10 episodes se she has cried enough,’ its just a creative discussion that you’re having, and eventually the team agreed and achi chezein bhi hoti hai, aisi baath nahin hai, but one of the producers said, ‘rating aati hai rating, dharay mar mar ke rona chaye, rating dekho na kitni ayegi,’ and I am just looking at them and I’m like… I don’t know how to respond to this anymore… it’s like… am I giving up?
Urwa goes on to say that while most of these stories do portray what is happening all around us, it is vital to show how a woman is strong and powerful enough to get herself out of these situations, instead of getting justice in the 40th episode, she needs to get the willpower from the 4th episode if not the first.
She adds that a middle ground needs to be found where the writers and channels can get their ratings without compromising on what the artists are teaching the younger generation.
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