Never Have I Ever Season 3 is now on Netflix and boy oh boy what a binge it has been! For those who are unaware of this series, it revolves around the life of a teenage Indian girl named Devi (Maitreyi Ramakrishnan) who lost her father, but after she returns to high school she decides to take control of her life and improve her status.
However, as we all know by now, things don’t go as we plan them to the majority of the time, hence Devi’s life is also a beautiful mess just like ours. Nonetheless, she doesn’t give up and faces situations head-on.
Although the series is based heavily on her love life and the love interests of her friends, there are still many lessons that girls can take away from the series.
So today, we will share 5 life lessons that you can learn from simply watching Netflix’s Never Have I Ever.
1. Never Try to Fit In – Accept your Difference
We all have been there at some point in life, many of us are bullied for our looks, appearances, skin colour, clothes, and whatnot. However, as the saying goes – YOU DO YOU. We think we want to be popular and we imagine our lives on the pedestal of greatness, but in reality, that’s not what we are actually looking for, what we really want is acceptance.
When Fabiola tries to Eve’s friends, she starts missing the things that made her… her. She skipped robotics and had to put a pin in what she loved, reminding us that yes fitting in is a constant struggle but, what is the point of trying to get people to like or notice you if you can’t be the real you around them. You don’t need anyone’s approval but your own.
2. Love is Bling to Red Flags
As much as we try to help our friends and loved ones who are too blind to look at red flags, we can’t do much unless they want to see those flags for themselves. No matter how hard we try to explain the scenario to them or even give them proof, it is a process that they will have to pull themselves through at the end of the day.
Eleanor’s relationship with the new guy in this season teaches us how our vision blurs when we think we’ve found the one and end up hurting ourselves. Keep your eyes and ears open but at the same time don’t give up on your friends no matter how deep in the quicksand they may be, they’ll need you eventually.
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3. Never Settle for Less
One of the many lessons we learnt from Devi’s character in Never Have I Ever is that no matter what happens in life, you should never settle for less. No matter how long you may have waited for something but if it doesn’t meet your expectations, why should you settle for it?
Devi knew what she wanted in a relationship yet she decided to break up with Paxton when he refused to give her that. She decided against settling! Imagine how hard that must have been, considering that she had been wanting to date Paxton since 6th grade. Know your worth,
4. Take Time to Heal
Humans beings are emotional, and there is nothing wrong with being sensitive or emotional and shedding a tear or two now and then. Devi and her mother have shown us throughout all 3 seasons that healing is a very messy process, and everyone has their own way of coping with loss.
Their grieving process reminds me highly of the Kintsugi – a Japanese term for golden repair. When a bowl or crockery shatters, the Japanese don’t through it away, they use gold to bind the cracks and create perfectly imperfect crockery out of it. This shows that with time and the right process, even human beings can heal and each one of us carries a unique scar which makes us even more beautiful.
5. Apologizing Won’t Make You The Smaller Person
Devi’s grand apology to Aneesa (for spreading a rumour about her) doesn’t work because she makes it more about her own suspension and less about the person she has harmed. Only then when she truly realizes the amount of pain she has caused Aneesa, she is able to apologize sincerely. In short, a heartfelt apology will always work better than fake grand gestures that don’t come straight from the heart.
We hope you enjoy these lessons and imply these in your daily lives.
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