Mom guilt is a term given to the feeling a mother feels when she feels responsible for something that feels wrong. This is something that is common among new mothers or working mothers of young children feel when they think that they have wronged their little one.
This could be by either making a mistake in caring for them, i.e the waster may be too warm or could be because they have to leave their young one behind when they travel or go to work, or leaving the child for a full day at daycare. This feeling of guilt makes being a mom a tough job but also eats at a lady’s confidence.
When a woman doubts herself and her ability to be a good mother to her child, it creates a crack in her relationship with her child. Almost anything in the first few years of a child’s upbringing can trigger this guilty feeling.
Signs of Mom Guilt
Mom guilt shows up in different forms. The most common ones are:
- Low Self-Worth
- Occupied mind with negative thoughts
- Losing your temper on your child and then regretting it
- The nagging thoughts one has i.e. ‘I didn’t spend enough time with my child today
- Asking for help while being hesitant about what others will think
5 Ways to Cope with Mom Guilt
Not to worry, there are positive coping mechanisms that can help you cope with the feeling of wrongfulness.
1. Surround Yourself with Positive People
Remember, you are a human being, you were never meant to be a perfect person, which also means that there is no such thing as a perfect parent. All mothers and fathers make mistakes a few times in their lives and it is okay. You can join groups on social media for new mommies to surround yourself with positive vibes.
2. Take a Break
Sometimes, all you need is a break from the hectic routine, and it is absolutely alright to take a day to yourself where you can take some time to collect your thoughts. If needed you and your better half can leave the child or children with a nanny or a close relative for a couple of hours.
3. Listen to Your Gut
Sometimes moms ignore their intuition thinking it’s just an instinct, but little do you know that most of the time those mother instincts are right. Don’t overlook them.
4. Prioritize Self-Care
A mother’s mental and physical well-being reflects on her ability to make important decisions. A healthy mommy is a happy one, which makes it easier to make decisions such as leaving your child behind for a day or two.
5. Identify the Source
It is important to understand and find the root of the problem. Starting a journal or a positive coping strategy can help most moms identify what is wrong and how to fix it.
While fathers are not immune to the feeling, they also try their best to excel at being the best dad and a great husband who shares the load. This is why it is important for both of them to be in the best physical and mental form.
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